The Responsive Body: Sexual Healing LIVE Q&A with Rahi Chun & Ali Mezey
Content note: This episode includes candid discussion of sexuality, trauma, and intimate bodily experiences.
SYNOPSIS: In this rich and deeply human - and live event – conversation, Ali Mezey is joined by somatic sex educator and bodyworker Rahi Chun for an unscripted exploration of sexuality, trauma, pleasure, and the innate intelligence of the body. Together, they challenge symptom-focused approaches to sexual “dysfunction” and invite a more holistic understanding of libido, arousal, orgasm, and genital response as meaningful expressions of lived experience, safety, and relational history.
Drawing from decades of professional and personal work, Ali and Rahi explore how early touch, attachment, trauma, shame, and cultural conditioning shape our sexual bodies – often long before sexuality itself is consciously understood. They discuss erectile challenges, orgasmic blocks, genital guarding, compulsive desire, pleasure ceilings, and the deep nervous-system need for safety that underlies sexual expression across all genders.
Through stories, client examples, and embodied inquiry, the episode illuminates how patterns of arousal and shutdown are not failures, but adaptive strategies – and how making them conscious can open new pathways for choice, intimacy, and authentic pleasure. This conversation is a powerful invitation to move beyond performance, diagnosis, and shame, and toward a sexuality rooted in presence, agency, and embodied authenticity.
In wanting to keep their anonymity, several attendees submitted questions and comments via chat.
Rahi on my podcast: The Disarmed Body: Sexual De-Armoring with Sexological Bodyworker, Rahi Chun
Ali on Rahi's podcast: Your "Sex Problem" Isn't Sexual: It's Relational Geometry with Ali Mezey
FOR MORE ALI MEZEY:
ALI - Website
ALI - LinkTree
To read more about the next Personal Geometry® Foundations training
FOR MORE RAHI CHUN
BIO: Rahi combines his training and experience as a CA state-certified Somatic Sex Educator and Sexological Bodyworker, Certified TRE Provider, NeuroAffective Touch Practitioner, Life Coach with an M.A. in Spiritual Psychology, with certifications in Family Constellations Therapy, DeArmouring Arts, Chi Nei Tsang & Karsai Nei Tsang, and STREAM (Scar Tissue Remediation and Management) in his facilitation of Somatic Sexual Wholeness. His expertise is in the art of Genital Dearmouring having trained practitioners worldwide. Hundreds have also graduated from his signature online course, "The 3 Keys to Genital Dearmouring" or via his live trainings and workshops.
SITE: https://somaticsexualwholeness.com/. And : https:://www.DivineUnionForLovers.com.
Registration and course content for The Three keys to Genital Dearmoring can be found HERE
RAHI SOCIAL MEDIA:
Facebook: @Rahi.Chun
IG: @rahichun
Rahi's YOUR BODY REMEMBERS PLEASURE Podcast
OTHER RESOURCES, LINKS AND INSPIRATIONS:
Montak Chia – A Thai Taoist master, author, and creator of the Universal Healing Tao System and Tao Yoga. His work blends Taoist internal alchemy, qigong, and sexual energy practices, with teachings on cultivating and transforming sexual energy for health and vitality. Learn about Mantak Chia’s teachings and Universal Healing Tao System
Family Constellation Work – A therapeutic approach that explores how hidden family dynamics and generational patterns can influence present-day emotions, relationships, and behavior.
Family Constellation Work brief explanation
Bert Hellinger, founder of Family/Systemic Constellation Work
Five-films series (made by Ali Mezey) on Stephan’s work with transgenerational influences on illness
NeuroAffective Touch® – A somatic therapeutic approach developed by Dr. Aline LaPierre that uses attuned, body-focused touch to help integrate emotional, relational, and developmental experiences stored in the body. It bridges the gap between mind and body to support healing where words alone may not reach. What Is NeuroAffective Touch®?
Inorgasmia (In-orgasmia) – A term used to describe the inability to reach orgasm despite adequate stimulation and desire. It can have physical, psychological, relational, or somatic contributors and is distinct from general low libido.
Genital De-Armoring – A somatic concept referring to the process of releasing muscular and nervous system defensesin the pelvic and genital regions that have developed in response to trauma, fear, or shut-down responses. It supports increased sensation, relaxation, and fuller access to pleasure and bodily presence.
“La Petite Mort” – A French expression meaning “the little death,” traditionally used metaphorically to describe the sensations of release, surrender, and altered consciousness that can accompany orgasm. The phrase highlights the powerful emotional and physical release inherent in sexual climax.
Ellen Heed: Embodied Autonomy; Scar Tissue Remediation expert
“Things that fire together wire together” – A popular paraphrase of the principle from neuroscience and psychology often attributed to Hebbian learning, meaning that neurons that activate together strengthen their connections, forming lasting patterns in the brain and nervous system. It’s widely used to explain how habitual patterns (emotional, cognitive, somatic) become embedded over time.
Ivan Pavlov & the Dog Experiments – Ivan Pavlov was a Russian physiologist best known for discovering classical conditioning through his experiments with dogs. He observed that dogs would begin to salivate not only when food was presented, but also in response to neutral stimuli (like a bell) once those stimuli were repeatedly paired with food. This demonstrated how the nervous system learns through association—how experiences that occur together become linked. Pavlov’s work laid the foundation for understanding how emotional, behavioral, and somatic patterns are formed, and why repeated pairings of sensation, emotion, and meaning can shape lifelong responses in the body.